Well, my first reaction to this questioning statement was: “How would I know?”
Then I remembered a brief period at junior school when I became “friends” with a school bully group.
Other children with whom I would normally have played avoided us. The leader would push others around making other children feel afraid.
Then Mr Bully picked on a child who knew how to stand up for himself. He pushed back and when he was hit he retaliated so effectively that the bully was in retreat and in tears, still muttering threats.
The young man asked if anyone else wanted to try to push him around.
The group broke up and dispersed and I walked away with a distinct feeling of relief – not at the fact that I had not been involved in a fight but that I could return to being normal. My flirtation with bullying had lasted less than a week.
I have never been, or wanted to be, a bully and my brief brush with it left me with a profound sense of discomfort.